I came across an article about a class that was given at Stanford University. It is about the relationships between husband and wife and between women, with the emphasis on the positives that come out of relationships among women friends, and how the relationships affect their health. I believe it bears sharing, so here it is:
In an evening class at Stanford, the lecture was on the mind-body connection – the relationship between stress, disease and health. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman with whom he is happy; whereas, for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.
At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.
Women connect with each other differently. They provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps women to create more serotonin – a neurotransmitter – that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being.
Women share feelings; whereas, men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings? Rarely.
Women do it all of the time. They share from their souls with their sisters, mothers, close friends and evidently that is very good for their health.
The lecturer said that when women spend time with a friend, it is just as important to their general health as jogging or working out at a gym.
There’s a tendency to think that when people are “exercising,” they are doing something good for their bodies, and when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged. This is not true. In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!
So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! Women are indeed very, very lucky.
Sooooo… let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it’s very good for our health.
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