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“You Raise Me Up”

A perfect welcome to this beautiful Sunday.

Twelve-piece vocal harmony group from across the UK, aged between 21 to 31-years-old, perform their own rendition of ‘You Raise Me Up’.

Did You Know Your Relationships Affect Your Health?

I came across an article about a class that was given at Stanford University.  It is about the relationships between husband and wife and between women, with the emphasis on the positives that come out of relationships among women friends, and how the relationships affect their health.  I believe it bears sharing, so here it is:

In an evening class at Stanford, the lecture was on the mind-body connection – the relationship between stress, disease and health.  The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman with whom he is happy; whereas, for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.

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At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.

Women connect with each other differently.  They provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences.  Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps women to create more serotonin – a neurotransmitter – that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being.

Women share feelings; whereas, men often form relationships around activities.  They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going.  Jobs?  Yes.  Sports?  Yes.  Cars?  Yes.  Fishing, hunting, golf?  Yes.  But their feelings?  Rarely.

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Women do it all of the time.  They share from their souls with their sisters, mothers, close friends and evidently that is very good for their health.

The lecturer said that when women spend time with a friend, it is just as important to their general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

There’s a tendency to think that when people are “exercising,” they are doing something good for their bodies, and when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged.  This is not true.  In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!

So every time you hang out to schmooze with a gal pal, just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health!  Women are indeed very, very lucky.

Sooooo… let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends.  Evidently it’s very good for our health.

 

[images from bingdotcom]

 

 

Memories of a Time Past: Part 1

When I was a little girl, growing up in Brooklyn NY, we used to live on a dead end street.

The dead end street I used to live on butted up against a cemetery wall, which, I believe was the largest cemetery in Brooklyn at the time.

The dead end street I used to live on butted up against a cemetery wall which belonged to the largest cemetery in Brooklyn, I believe, at the time.  We kids used to wait outside the entrance through which the workers would exit at the end of their work day.  They would throw chestnuts to us which fell from the numerous chestnut trees that grew in there.  We ran and scrambled to get them, and the workers laughed and enjoyed our excitement!  We’d drill a hole in the nuts, thread string (or shoe laces) through them and play games with them.

Our house was a semi-detached, and so we had a common wall with our neighbor next door.  When I grew enough so that I was able to reach the electric outlet that was on that adjoining wall, I used it to speak through it with my neighbor friend, Sonja.  We used it quite often in place of a telephone.  We didn’t have a telephone yet, at that time.  We had a bench against that wall in our kitchen, so I would stand on it to speak with her.

I also remember enjoying visiting Sonja in her house next door.  Her parents were very nice, and her father played the mandolin.  I loved listening to his music and watching how his fingers strummed the strings.  It was the very first time I had seen someone play an instrument.  He would sing in the Norwegian language; they were originally from Norway.  Her mother baked the most wonderful cookies, too.!  It was a warm, friendly home.

Sonja was 3 years older than I, and I remember playing in her backyard.  My vivid memory from that time is of sitting at her play table; the chair I was sitting on matched the table and they were made of metal.  I still can “hear” the scraping of the chair on the rough concrete of the yard as I moved it.

Sonja and me in her backyard.  I was 2 and she was 5 yrs old.

Sonja and me in her backyard. I was 2 and she was 5 yrs old.

My father took this photo of Sonja and me with his simple box camera.  I remember the leather carry-handle at the top of it.  He developed his film in a small, dark closet in our house.

I was able to find a photo of the camera my father used (and I subsequently inherited it for my use when I was a teenager.

I was able to find a photo of the camera my father used.  He gave me his camera to use when I was a teenager.

 

In this photo, I am Advancing the film manually in the old box camera.  There was a little window through which the number of the next unexposed area of the film roll would be seen.

In this photo, I am advancing the film manually in the old box camera. There was a little window through which the number of the next unexposed area of the film roll would be viewed in order to be sure the next picture would be centered when the film was developed.

It was a more simple time of life, and there were many pleasures to be enjoyed.

Credits:  dead end, agfa box camera; bingdotcom.  Original old photos from personal collection of Sunshinebright.

Replay Sunday and Happy Easter!

Please help! My daughter’s dearest friend needs caring people to come forward. She is losing her home, cannot work, and her disability claim has been denied due to a government error, which she is appealing.  Thank you for spreading the message.

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First of all, Happy Easter -hope the bunny was good to all out there!

Secondly, I am re-posting this video because I care deeply about my friend. I am asking people to re-blog  this video -on your blog, on facebook, on twitter, etc. Please spread the word, as I am hoping to reach our goal.

 

If this seems pushy, I apologize. Being aware there are many things going on in this world and everyone can do so much, this is one thing I can do to make SG’s life a little easier, and so I am trying. If you would like to donate, even as little as $5.00, please go to http://www.gofundme.com/886ae8

It is much appreciated!

Many thanks again to Bill Griffin and his team at Crowdwish.com.

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Eeyore Has Special Friends

Came across this beautiful quote and just had to share it.

EeyoreImportant message for us all.

A Story of Friendship

Tomorrow, my friend Marian, is coming to visit me. She will be staying for 9 days.  She lives in Connecticut, and this visit was planned LONG before there was the polar vortex that made its latest appearance.

Marian’s original plan was to fly to Miami on last Thursday to visit her son and his family before coming to stay with me on Monday (tomorrow).  So, when that storm made its few passes in the northeast, of course all flights were cancelled, and my Marian, as did many others, had to scramble to get another flight to South Florida.  She was successful and has already landed this evening in Miami and will have her shortened visit with her family.

Marian and I grew up together.  We lived across the street from each other in Brooklyn while we were teenagers.  We hung out together a lot, and double-dated many times.  We were really close friends.  Then, she got married and moved to Connecticut, and a year later, I got married to the guy who lived “down the block.”  It was a close-knit community.  As can happen, people sometimes lose touch when life gets complicated.

We hooked up again through a mutual friend whom I hadn’t contacted in 45 years(!), whose son I found on Facebook.  It’s a convoluted thing.  The long and the short is that life has its strange twists and turns and we can end up traveling a full circle if we’re lucky!

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And tomorrow, we close that little space in our life’s circle.

Weekend Past

Boy, was it a busy one!  Self-improvement Saturday and Meet ‘n Greet on Sunday.  Got a chance to use my self-improvement only one day later!

It’s not the first self-improvement workshop I’ve been to in my life, but it was very challenging.  I’m basically a positive person, so I really didn’t have to work on the negative part of my psyche.  (Do I have one?)  My problem is that I’m still trying to find my passion!  It’s about time, isn’t it?  Have more work to do; speaking of which, I came home with a work book, so I can work some more on my self-improvement.  I firmly believe that we all could use some improving, what do you think?

The Meet ‘n Greet was a success!  We welcomed the most recent newcomers to our community, and it proved to be a very happy gathering. 

Of course, the wine and cheese may have helped a bit!  The day was perfect – sunshine (that’s a familiar word), moderate temps, and when you get a very social crowd together, the friendship sparks light the fire. 

While I’m sitting here, typing my blog, I started to feel awfully warm; almost to the point of sweating.  I checked the thermostat and realized the temp in the house was too high.  I forgot to adjust for the warmer temps outside. Too bad it wasn’t a “smart” thermostat.

Sunshine is even happier now! 🙂