Category Archives: Children

If I Could Go Back In Time And Raise My Children Again

This is a beautiful and wise poem.  If only I was so wise when my children were young.

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April Is National Child Abuse Prevention Month

April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month

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Child abuse is more than bruises or broken bones. While physical abuse is shocking due to the scars it leaves, not all child abuse is as obvious. Ignoring children’s needs, putting them in unsupervised, dangerous situations, or making a child feel worthless or stupid are also child abuse. Regardless of the type of child abuse, the result is serious emotional harm.

MYTH #1: It’s only abuse if it’s violent.

Fact: Physical abuse is just one type of child abuse. Neglect and emotional abuse can be just as damaging, and since they are more subtle, others are less likely to intervene.

MYTH #2: Only bad people abuse their children.

Fact: While it’s easy to say that only “bad people” abuse their children, it’s not always so black and white. Not all abusers are intentionally harming their children. Many have been victims of abuse themselves, and don’t know any other way to parent. Others may be struggling with mental health issues or a substance abuse problem.

MYTH #3: Child abuse doesn’t happen in “good” families.

Fact: Child abuse doesn’t only happen in poor families or bad neighborhoods. It crosses all racial, economic, and cultural lines. Sometimes, families who seem to have it all from the outside are hiding a different story behind closed doors.

MYTH #4: Most child abusers are strangers.

Fact: While abuse by strangers does happen, most abusers are family members or others close to the family.

MYTH #5: Abused children always grow up to be abusers.

Fact: It is true that abused children are more likely to repeat the cycle as adults, unconsciously repeating what they experienced as children. On the other hand, many adult survivors of child abuse have a strong motivation to protect their children against what they went through and become excellent parents.

All types of child abuse and neglect leave lasting scars. Some of these scars might be physical, but emotional scarring has long lasting effects throughout life.  Some effects include:

  1. Lack of trust and relationship difficulties;
  2. Core feelings of being “worthless” or “damaged;” and
  3. Trouble regulating emotions.

Our children are our most precious commodities.  Treasure them, and always show them love, gentleness, kindness, firm guidance, and above all – plenty of hugs and “I love yous.”

[Image from CDC]

[some info from healthguidedotorg.]

What Could Be More Uplifting Than A Happy Baby?

 

Must share this.  Exquisite!!

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A Nice Change Of Pace For Today – The Last of the Dog Babysitters

I hope you viewed the first and second of the series.  This is the last one, and I sure hope you enjoy these precious photos as much as I have!

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December Represents Mixed Emotions

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December has different meanings for different people.  Excitement, happiness, celebration, life expectations, new beginnings, and end of a life (lives) as we knew it.

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What does the month of December represent to me?

Going back to the year 1958, December was great cause for celebration, life expectations, and a new beginning.  I married my first husband, Danny – my best friend, the father of my children.  My soul mate.  Yes, it is real.  There really is such a thing.

December means the birth of my son.  I was totally prepared for his arrival, and was joyous at his birth.

December means the month in which my now deceased granddaughter was born.

December means celebration of Hanukkah.  A time to be close to family and light the Menorah and remember the discovery of one day’s oil in the biblical temple which, miraculously, lasted eight days, to keep the temple’s light burning until more oil was found.

December means the loss of my soul mate.  It was expected, after many months’ illness, but when it happened, I had to cope with the great emptiness that his death left after 34 years of deep love.

December means the discovery of a new love, and a decision to devote myself to another.  It was a very good decision.  Bob was a special guy and very devoted to me, and I was happy with him.  We had a loving relationship and there was respect for one another.

December means the loss of my Bob after more than a year’s illness.  We were married for 18 1/2 years, and they were very good years.  They went very fast.

December is a time for remembering:  Taking stock of the past and looking forward to another year of whatever life brings.  It brings surprises – the unexpected; that’s for sure.

What does December mean to you?

Charlotte’s Web In Florida – Maybe Not So Quick

An article that appeared in Sunday’s Local section of the Sun-Sentinel is about an action that the Florida legislature has taken that I did not know about before.

The Florida Department of Health has been “mum” since a law was approved last spring, creating an Office of Compassionate Use.  This Office is charged with working out regulations for up to five Florida plant nurseries to grow and process “Charlotte’s Web” marijuana and then make it available to eligible patients.

Paige Figi, the mother of the child for whom Charlotte’s Web was named, testified before the Florida legislature:

Her daughter Charlotte, had her first seizure at 3 months.  It lasted four hours.  Doctors later diagnosed her with Dravet syndrome.  Racked by seizures, she was unable to eat, walk or talk.

Now, after nearly two years on “Charlotte’s Web,” she can talk, eat on her own and even ride a bike.  Her story was featured in a CNN special, “Weed,” by Dr. Sanjay Gupta last year.

“We are just asking for leniency to treat these children,” Figi said.  “Doctors are telling their patients to move to Colorado.  We don’t have time to wait 10 years for a pill to go to market.”

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Thanks to the advocacy of patients and their families, and of lobbyists, one of which is Louis Rotundo, who represents the Winter Park-based Florida Medical Cannabis Association, the Florida legislature made the decision to push through a law.

This law is in limbo now, due to the judicial consideration of regulations of the plant nurseries.  The law, which was approved last spring, under which the Department of Health was expected to have rules in place by Sept. 30th, has been placed on the back burner.

A judge, last month, ordered the Florida Department of Health to rewrite its regulations for an oil made from the non-euphoric cannabis, “Charlotte’s Web,” that can be “used to treat epilepsy and other neurological disorders and cancer.”

The Department of Health has kept this ruling under wraps, and the Department was given until Monday to appeal the judge’s order.

The delay occurred due to the challenging of several Florida nurseries about the requirement of one of Florida’s proposed rules:  licenses would be decided by a lottery.  This challenge sent the matter into court, and Administrative Law Judge W. David Watkins in Tallahassee, threw out the proposed regulations.

At the beginning of the year, Florida lawmakers were already considering legislating a law to allow medical marijuana in the state.

“We want to be on the right side of history and medicine,” said Rep. Katie Edwards, D-Plantation, after a hearing in Tallahassee held by the House Subcommittee on Criminal Justice. “The work begins today to take into account the pleas of people all around the state to do something and do it quickly, to make sure these individuals can gain access to the safest treatment without playing politics or hiding behind antiquated arguments.”

Well, it looks like quick access is a dream for the parents of children suffering seizures, and for patients for whom the cannabis oil will make their lives better.  The rule for using a lottery to decide which nurseries will plant and grow the marijuana is holding up the relief of a growing number of patients with illnesses that could be helped with the oil.

 

 

Protectors Of Our Babies

Here’s some more doggie baby-sitters:  They are so patient.  Enjoy!

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Painted Faces

I loved this video.  And I laughed myself silly.  Hope you find it precious.

 

Leaning into my Hypocrisy

Being an autistic, especially an Aspie, can be very frustrating to that person and to all around who are experiencing frustration also. This post gives a little perspective.

Thirty Days of Autism

Leaninginwatermarked.jpgSometimes the things I know to be right and true, the things I aspire to, do not come easily to me in the tired-out end-of-the-day moments.

Those are the times when I may not be at my best: my patience may be worn thin, and I may feel the tempting lure of what seems like a shortcut… one that ends up just making things more complex and unruly.

Tonight was one of those nights.

I was rushing H to get to bed – and he was yelling at me for rushing him. It did not go particularly well…

But H called me on it:

I am trying to advocate for myself here. I need you to listen to me.

I am having a hard time listening because you are yelling at me and I don’t like to be yelled at.

Well, I feel I have to yell because you are…

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I’m A Cat Lover But Also Love Dogs

Dogs make the best babysitters sometimes.  Enjoy!

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